With Father's day almost upon us in the US (thanks to Hallmark), it's maybe not suprising that I was struck by a post in Russell Davies' blog about the power of getting up early.
Now, as it happens, I absolutely buy into the idea that successful people get up early (probably because I am personally a lot more efficient at that time of day vs. late in the evening). In fact successful people just work damn hard. The problem is that being a (good) dad and getting up early to work (or just wokring more) are somewhat mutually exclusive. What's more this problem is getting worse.
Dad's tend to get squeezed at both ends - they work during the day, then more and more of them work either end of the day helping look after the kids. In the UK (according to the Equal Opportunities Commission men account for a third of child care time - which is high if you consider the number of women working in that country. And with 40% of UK men working 48 hours a week or longer, how are you supposed to find time to do either one well, let alone put in more hours? For me, getting up early to do work is not really an option, since Aidan is up everyday at 6.15 (and there are limits to how early I will get up). This has always been one of the challenges of working in planning and being a parent - it's a great job but with long hours and a lot of extra-curricular stuff that you want/have to do.
This is a similar problem to one faced by career women. A lot has also been written about the undocumented/unrecorded value of work in the home - whihc based on my observation that taking care of 2.3 kids is a like having 2.3 jobs,, is pretty high. However, the market has provided wmen with more of an answer than men in the form of more childcare options.
For fathers, the probem is that the world tends to be a little less sympathetic to them on this issue. According to EOC studies, fathers often feel discouraged by workplace norms and culture from taking time off work for family, or expressing a wish for flexible work. Father's expectations about whether they would have access to work life balance policies are lower than for mothers.
This together with new backlashes on men's rights to their kids during/post divorce, is the interesting accompanying trend to women's increasing desire to not go back to work after having children. Men, liberated from a stereotypical work role by women, now do not want to slip back into that same stereotype. A Careerbuilder.com survey in 2003 showed that 40% of men would be very happyto relinquish the breadwinner role. Hard work may make you more successful, just not happier. To quote a paper form the Rowntree foundation "a high level of domestic responsibility combined with long working hours did appear - as with mothers - to be a source of stress"